WEAPONIZED FORGIVENESS
Women especially have suffered from this form of forgiveness especially as it relates to sexual & other forms of abuse.
The passive approach by the proponents of forgiveness is assuming that forgiveness is a state, rather than a process.
The goal of weaponized forgiveness is hurrying the victim into issuing a pardon & quickly pushing into reconciliation by shaking hands.
It is not you who is supposed to dictate how, and when a victim should forgive & reconcile.
The perpetrator's actions of remorse & a changed heart might help in healing, forgiveness, & reconciliation should there be a need.
How long have we preached forgiveness?
How long have we guilty-tripped victims of the apartheid oppressive system to forgive and move on?
Perhaps if we spent the same time naming, and shaming the perpetrators of systematic & deliberate injustice of black people to repent, apologize, pay back in restitution & vow never to oppress black people again.
Religion was a vehicle of oppression in Africa.
Religion indoctrinated blacks with the messages of forgiveness, giving the other cheek, enduring suffering, and all this time drinking tea with the oppressors without saying to them "Stop abusing black people".
All this crap about not forgiving is drinking your poison is a very oppressive & manipulative language.
Today we see the black South African battling with the injustice of the past.
The flashbacks of gunshots, dead bodies, and blood everywhere still keep blacks awake in the night.
Soaking themselves into alcohol to numb the generational pain.
Forgiveness that is not allowed to go through the process, but hurried through by the smooth tongues of religious and oppressor's armor-bearers benefits the oppressor, but leaves the oppressed even deep into depression.
Your wife, daughter, or sister is raped, and the first thing you think about is forgiving the rapist?
To me, that is the real definition of rape apologists.
They are never once looking at the pain of the victim. They hurt the victim repeatedly by Arm stringing them into forgiveness.
Forgiveness is a beautiful thing if it is not forced or hurried.
Because the oppressors were never told to repent, apologize, or restitute, they continue in their racist behaviors knowing they have enough black disciples to control how victims respond.
Hillary Gandee's death affected me so much that I felt I will have a breakdown mentally.
For how long will black Christians stand in the corner of rapists, murderers evil people.
For how long are black preachers being used to undermine the pain & trauma of the victims & their families?
Black rape apologists fear approaching perpetrators.
Because these perpetrators are their preaching/speaking partners.
These perpetrators are Pastors.
These perpetrators are men.
They can't face perpetrators and tell them to repent or die.
But easily tell victims to forgive or die with the metaphorical 'poison'.
Woe unto you all rape apologists, woe unto you!!!
Woe unto you enablers of the church-based abuse, Woe unto you!
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